Some people don’t want to accept that the actions they did caused the situation they’re in now. So the memories they conjure up are those of themselves being the victim. I’m sure it happens in all various types of situations.
I can’t say much about the person in particular whose placing blame on others but hey you can’t keep going around playing a victim. It’s funny that now out of all times people who they bitched and whined about that they fought so hard to get out their lives they pull back in for sympathy! Meanwhile people that love and care for them, they exile them away.
It won’t change the situation and noting anyone can say or do can bring back what you loss. So whatever you know. You lost it. Accept responsibility! Grow the fuck up. Your actions made it what it is!